Life Coaching and Counseling by Len Sone – Empowering Young Women

QUESTION:
Dear Len!
I am a petroleum engineer from Afghanistan now in Canada, I came to Canada as a skilled worker ,because I wanted to escape the Islamic totalatarian regime in Afghanistan,I am 34 yrs old man and i have a life ,where everything seemed to against me, being non-practicing person, member of human right org,s the pressure/fear and last my mothher passed away when i was coming to Canada.       
I have lived life that didn’t give me a chance to polish myself back home.
Now in Canada, I would like to start a new life, free from anxiety,,fear  and apprehension but my past painful memories deprive me of that. It is a known fact if someone is subject to anxiety and dperession , his/her mental capibilities shrink.
I have problem in focusing , paying attentionn, that’s why I score poor in my school, I have started my schooling in Canada to up-grade my skills.
I would like to improve my brain function, focus, attention.
Otherwise  i may not be able to get job, if if i am not that technically sound.
Please provide me some advice that could help me in becomig technically sound and my brain start functioning sharpely.In this materialistic a sharp person has more chances to get a job and to progress.
Thanks

ANSWER:

Dear Bob* ,

my sage advice in one word: RELAX!

We are all taught that our work situation depends on our skills and talents, our mental capacity, but that just isn’t true. The only thing that really matters in our finances and career is our vibration. When we’re happy and having fun, everything in our life works. When we worry, nothing does. Law of Attraction is THE LAW to pay attention to.

And the thing is, you’re worrying a lot! You’re worrying about the past, about your work, your school…. and about your worrying. That means that your vibration is very low, which means that you’re attracting many negative things in your life, because like attracts like.

The only thing you need to improve is your vibration, and the only way to do that is to decide to relax, have fun and let worries go.

Let your mantra be: More fun, less worry. More fun, less worry. More fun, less worry.

Make a list of things you enjoy doing for fun and do them more often. Watch movies, play soccer, read poetry, sleep, whatever is fun and easy for you. When a negative thought arises, let God (the Universe) handle it. The old wise saying, “Let go and let God” really works wonders for someone like you, someone who has been worrying a lot. It’s time for you to step aside and let go of trying to manage everything.

If you don’t believe me, try it out for a month. Simply make your only job to have fun, and let the universe take care of the rest. You will become happier, your vibration will rise, and as a result, you will be attracting better situations including better jobs and more money. And it will all come to you easily.

Another thing to think about is whether you even enjoy your work as a petroleum engineer. If you don’t, change it into a career you can really love. You are still very young, and you are beginning a NEW Life. Don’t waste it! This is your chance to create the life you always dreamed of.
Maybe in Afghanistan you couldn’t be your true self, but now you can. Now you can follow your genuine interests like, for example, taking acting classes because you always secretly wanted to be a famous actor, or business lessons because you always pictured yourself as a successful businessman. If money is short, find another way; do what you can with what you’ve got until more money comes- and it will! Let Canada be your new home and your new teacher; there’s a good reason why you moved to a different continent. CHANGE.

It would help you enormously to stop trying to act like a serious and responsible adult, and be a kid again (or maybe for the first time). Dream, nap, play, run.
Life is really fun when you let it be. But it’s your choice. The thing about life is that the stronger your intention to have fun, the more fun life becomes. It’s not an instantaneous process because YOU have to change, but life is really just a mirror of you. So if life right now seems all serious and full of pressure, it’s because You are serious and pressure yourself.

Another perk to having more fun is that it improves your brain function, focus, and attention. All the things you wanted to improve in the first place. But that’s just icing on the cake. The real gift is that you’ll be having fun!

I recommend you read “Ask and It is Given” by Abraham-Hicks. It will go more in-depth about Law of Attraction. You can also access more of my articles on my website: http://kissesandhearts.com

Finally, I leave you with one of my favorite quotes:

"Life is too important to be taken seriously" - Oscar Wilde

Have fun,
Len Sone
Self-Empowerment Expert and Certified Life Coach

http://kissesandhearts.com

“Be Yourself! It’s the only thing you can be truly successful at.”

(*name changed for privacy)

QUESTION:

Hi.
I’m very sorry if this question is in the wrong category, but I’m honestly confused on where it should go. I just need help getting through this phase in my life. When i was 15 (I’m currently 17), my life hit a difficult and hard-to-describe phase. Ever since i was 15, it’s like my life has been a gigantic dream, but not in a good way whatsoever. It’s like i’m not here, i’m just wasting away my life. I know it might be hard to understand, but this is the best way i can describe it. My life seems like one gigantic dream. I’m not “living” my life. It’s as though Im seeing it all go by, and I can’t do one thing about it.
Could this be because of a chemical deficiency? Could this be just a teenage phase? I don’t think i could have put this on myself. I don’t do drugs, drink, or smoke, so i know that couldn’t be an answer. But please, i know it might be hard to understand, but please try to e-mail me back as soon as possible. I truly need help through this. Thank you for your time.

ANSWER:

Hi Billy (*name changed for privacy),yes, this is the right place for your question!

I know that a lot of people may tell you that you may have some chemical deficiency and put you on some drug. However, even our body chemistry is caused by our vibration (our thoughts and emotions). To change your issue, you need to focus your thoughts in a positive direction (more on that later).

If you are familiar with the Law of Attraction, you will know that the more you think of something, the more it appears in your life. Since you have been saying over and over to yourself in the past 2 years that life appears to not be real, you have attracted even more of that mental state and experiences in your life. It doesn’t matter how it started, so don’t try to figure that out. That won’t help. What matters now is how to change that and become happy.

Since you bring up the issue of dreams and feeling like you’re wasting your life, let’s talk about your dreams! What are your dreams? What do you want to accomplish in your life? Are there any scenarios, locations, careers or hobbies that you feel called to experience? I know that you must have dreams, for we all do. And as a teenager, you must have a lot!

So, the cure for you my dear is to start thinking about your passion(s), and then DO IT. Start with baby steps, but do your best to move forward with it. Then you will find yourself really living!
[You may wish to start with a free online class I created called "Find Your Passion", which is located here: http://kissesandhearts.com/classes/free-class-find-your-passion/]

The question of “What Excites Me?” is the most important question to ask yourself.

It may help you to know that many people experience what you are now experiencing, and actually, it is a very good thing because it means that you are going through a TRANSFORMATION. Obviously for you, when you hit 15, the life you knew, as a child, started to change. What your parents live or believe is no longer enough. You are now at a stage where you are ready to define yourself!

So how do you want to define yourself? Who do you want to become? That’s what life is asking of you now, and if you follow your excitement and intuition no matter what anyone else says, you will become a very happy and empowered young man. And very quickly too!

It’s very important that you define a very clear intention for yourself. Again, something that calls you and excites you. When you have a clear positive self-defined direction in your life, you will feel much better. You’ll know where you’re headed, and it will feel magical!

You’re ok kid. Nothing’s wrong with you. Now go out there and become the person you really want to be (because that’s who you actually are)!

Lots of love to you,
Len Sone
certified Life Coach