For Life Coaches: Is Life Coaching No Longer Fun For You?
February 6, 2010 by admin
Many life coaches are terribly burned out on life coaching and afraid to admit it! Raise your hand if you’re experiencing this? Yes, you!
What started off as a promising career where you thought (and perhaps occasionally did) that you would have tons of fun and that you’d make tons of money, has spiraled into a yucky marketing/networking/etc that didn’t bring you any clients and even unsatisfying sessions with client(s) you once enjoyed. Financially, you’re no better than you were a year ago or 5 years ago! And now you’re just tired, so tired of it all. And yet, you know you love coaching in some primal way. So what to do?
The truth is that you have to, and crave to, get your mojo back, the excitement and freshness, but you can’t do it if you aren’t willing to STEP OUT for a while.
1. If it’s not fun anymore, take a vacation from coaching! Do something else for a while. Stop coaching!
Seriously, tell your clients that you are taking a vacation from coaching and are not sure when you’ll coach them again. Believe it or not, your clients will be that much more impressed with you. When you get back, you’ll both be fresh again.
If you still want to coach a little bit, tell your clients that you are raising your fee by 100%. That way you can weed out the clients who are willing to stick with you and pay you more. A lot of the burn out that we coaches experience is because we are not paid nearly enough for the amount of energy we put into our coaching. This is a great way to appreciate yourself more, and it sends a great message to others.
Get a regular job or go back to school to support yourself. It’s ok to go back to 9-5, even if you promised yourself you never would. A big part of what made life coaching so exciting is the promise that you will be self-employed and enjoying a relaxing schedule of your own making. But is that a reality or are you constantly worried about money? If it’s not, just admit it and realize that you’ll get there one day. Now is the time for something else. See #2.
2. What is fun for you? What’s fresh?
It’s MOST important to move on to doing what’s purely fun for you without any strings attached. Be kidlike and explore new options!
Whatever your budget, you will find fun things to do and think about if you direct yourself in that direction.
This is the time to grow and discover a new you. See #3.
3. Who do you want to become?
Write out some adjectives describing people you truly admire in almost that envious sort of way. Not admire like “Oh they are a good person” but admire as in “Man, I wish I was like her/him. They rock!”
Now, answer this question: How can I become that kind of energy? See what comes up for you.
Example: Maybe you’ll discover you want to take better care of your physical appearance because beauty inspires you. You can get excited about that and start doing research about how to go about it. You’ll see how easy it is to come up with moving ideas.
You’ll discover that you didn’t loose your joy for life after all. You still know how to be happy!
I hope this article has helped you! You’ll know when the right time is to go back to coaching because you will just HAVE to!!
Kisses,
Len Sone
Self-Empowerment Expert and Certified Life Coach
http://len-sone.com
For Writers & Artists: Dealing With Bad Reviews & Criticisms
February 6, 2010 by Len Sone
You just submitted that article or book and some of the reviews are not very nice. Or even just getting 4 out of 5 stars can get you going- why did they give me 4 and not 5??? You can even feel a certain rage for the person. This guy wants to put me down to make himself look intelligent,” you think.
Yes, lots of people will do that. There are those out there who will try to fault what you have created because it makes them feel better about themselves. They get to distinguish themselves by pointing out that you are WRONG!
- It helps to know these people give you the same grade they give themselves. A person can criticize others about the same amount (actually a bit less) than they criticize themselves. It’s basic Law of Attraction. They are simply showing where they are vibrationally (ie. emotionally).
Bashar, a UFO channeled by Darryl Anka, has brilliantly explained that creation takes more power than destruction. Bashar’s explanation went something like this: Imagine building a house of cards? Is it easier to make it or destroy it? Obviously destroy it. Why? Because creation takes more Power!
- You are the one who is creating and they are the one destroying. So who has more Power? YOU!!!!
Really your opinion of yourself is what matters here. Take an honest look inside and feel your honest opinion of your project. How did you treat yourself in school when you didn’t get a good grade? You may be a perfectionist who expects an A on nearly every test. 
Reviews are harder to account for because people come to your articles/books/art expecting different things.
- Compliment yourself daily. Eventually someone will disagree with you, or give you a bad rating, and you won’t give a damn. Why? Because you created out of joy and you know you were meant to and that it’s good. Not every book is right for everyone.
One question and concern is “But won’t others read their review and think that too?” The answer is: Only if they were already likely to think that. People who loved your work will think your critic is wrong and might even defend you in their review.
Lastly, I leave you with a well-known quote by genius:
“Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocre minds. The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and courageously uses his intelligence and fulfills the duty to express the results of his thoughts in clear form.” –Albert Einstein
Kisses & Hearts,
Len Sone
Q&A: Aber (Abraham Hicks fan) with a question about manifestation
August 13, 2009 by Len Sone
This article is meant for Abers but others may be able to understand/follow it as well.
Dear Len,
my dream burns bright within me. I have followed the energy of what excites me vibrationally via focuswheel-ing and appreciation lists (my 2 fave processes) and today got a very specific idea in my imagination. At first I felt “this is it” and was so happy and excited, but then I started to feel major anxiety about it. What is up with that? X, Amy*
ANSWER:
Dearest Amy* (and fellow Aber),
You’re a true wizard! You’re not an ‘action slut’ but a deliberate creator. What an honor! It is a small # of people who understand that. You have been able to comprehend something that not many people do, even the ones who go on and on about Law of Attraction but don’t truly accept that it’s entirely an emotional/thought journey. That’s Wisdom, and wisdom is a huge accomplishment! So, *BIG APPLAUSE*!!!!!
Now, about the issue at hand: you must continue the focuswheel+appreciation process! Here’s why.
You’re uncomfortable because you’re not stable yet. You are VERY close but not quite there vibrationally.
If you remember Abraham’s emotional scale, you are now in ‘overwhelment’ and “impatience”. Yes, you felt great joy briefly, but that is not your overall vibration. Basically, you got in the vortex and then it spit you out. So, still some work to do. And not much because overwhelment is pretty darn close vibrationally to joy.
First, back up a little bit. Come back to things you have under control now. Feel the comfort of things you’re already good at. Beat that drum until you feel confident again. There is no hurry, and this won’t take long.
Confidence is what’s lacking here, so think about whatever makes you confident now. Start with small things, easy things. “I can make pancakes. I have a nice bathroom.” Anything that makes you feel good and proud.
From your new confident vantage point, you’ll see the whole situation more clearly. Maybe that specific idea is actually not IT but it had many of the wanted elements. Or maybe it is IT but now you’ll be able to see it in a new light, and as something you can truly belong to, without intimidation. It all becomes clearer when you are in THE VORTEX.
Your IB is in the perfect reality, the total answer to your asking. So it really doesn’t matter if that specific thing is it or not. Because, you can get to the perfect match. The only reason why you are now attached to that specific thing is because you want your desire to happen ASAP and you fear that it will take forever to come up with another idea. Don’t think of it that way. Keep returning to the knowing that you want to attract what’s already in your Vortex. It’s not a case of someone needing to give you something. It’s a case of following your own bread crumbs to your own creation. As you know from Abraham, the thing you want is being held for you indefinitely. So in other words, you can’t miss the bus. That’s important because, as i wrote, you are tempted to jump the gun a bit. And, I really want you to know that you don’t need to fear losing the manifestation. It will wait for YOU. You are going to get what you want!
Get back in the vortex. Things will get clearer and then, boom- manifestation. And don’t hold on to that specific thing too tightly because what your IB has planned for you may be 10x better. One thing you can trust in is that your IB adores you. So trust Her creation.
You are VERY Very close.
Love,
Len
Q&A: Teenager hates who she has become
July 22, 2009 by Len Sone
This is a long one folks, but well worth the read! - Len
QUESTION:
Dear Ms. Sone,
I apologize in advance for unloading an essay of my problems on you. I am 16 years
old, and I am going to enter my final year of high school this coming fall. High school
is a time of growth, it is a time we will always look back on, and I deeply fear I am
always going to look back on this set of 4 years with regret. I feel like I’ve become an
extremely stupid, selfish, and lazy person.
To begin with, I have been set as the overachiever since I was a child. Always getting
grades at the top of the class, always getting special attention from the teacher not by
kissing up, but by turning in excellent work. This was the person I was when I entered
high school in 9th grade. Oh how I wish I could turn back time to that first day I set
foot on this high school.
Without realizing it before it was too late, I have slowly and steadily become everything
that I hate. Laziness… I increasingly developed a problem of procrastination of
laziness starting my sophomore year. The procrastination finally caught up with me
the first semester of junior year, and it happened… I got two B+’s. I completely lost
my status as valedictorian. Now this may not sound like the end of the world. In fact,
to me personally, it does not matter. But I have immense, shameful guilt for it because
my parents have given the WORLD to me my entire life. Academics was the only thing
they ever asked for, and I failed them. And I can’t look back proudly on this because I
didn’t fail after trying my best. I failed because I was stupid and lazy. Similarly my dad
has spent hundreds on SAT prep books. I could have completed them, but no, I
procrastinated. My dad would have been so happy with a 2200. I got a 2090. Was it
my best? No. I was lazy. I remember something my favorite actress, Audrey Hepburn,
said, something about how you should always try your best so you could look back
and be satisfied at simply that, no matter how badly you did. Here is my mom who has
developed arthritis from working so hard for me, here is my dad who has never truly
experienced joy since he left Vietnam, and I am just this ungrateful little wench who
lost my chance to give back to them. The teachers who labeled me as future Stanford,
future Harvard, future doctor in 9th grade; now they look at me with a forced smile.
My grade was 93% instead of the 106% they saw, my tests had a sprinkle of B’s and
even C’s when the old Kelly* simply did not accept anything below an A. Naive young
Kelly*, she had the nerve to complain about the pressure of maintaing these grades.
Now I would have anything to put that dedication back. I have irresponsibly
procrastinated by driver’s license (starting it now when I should have last year), my
subject SAT’s (which I will cram in October of next year).
I wonder if it is all this disappointment in my academic work that yields this part of the
story.. I have become such a jealous person with a superiority complex. I never
express it, it’s just these terrible thoughts that I’m horrified go through my head. I feel
so stupid when someone knows something ahead of me becuase I was too lazy/busy
procrastinating to find out about it myself. I am SO jealous of those who have retained
their valedictorian status. I envy those who have finished their SATs with high scores,
who have done all the right things in high school, have become presidents in clubs
when I didn’t bother researching you’re supposed to have good leadership in high
school instead of jumping around clubs with no fixed dedication to any one…
Let’s not forget my friends… I had a permanent set in middle school. It started with a
few, and we kept picking up others, and eventually we reached a group of 6 who
always ate lunch together, always had get-togethers. In high school, our interests
began to diverge; we barely maintained the same activities and hobbies anymore.
However, that didn’t stop each and every one of them from continuing to sit at the
same lunch spot together every day. Each and every one… but me. I had another set of
friends and one day I just shamelessly moved on to sit with them. I figured if I just say
hi to the old groupie we’d still be connected, I figured our group would splinter
anyway since we were all different people… But no. I completely and unreasonably
deserted my old friends who had never done anything to wrong me. I suppose I miss
them, I mean they don’t hate me, there’s just this overwhelming guilt for that… In
second grade my favorite rhyme was “New friends are silver and old are gold.” What
happened to that? How could I ever be so stupid?
And there are all these horrid little things too. My parents are not very materialistic so
I never got them anything for mother’s or father’s day or their birthdays. They never
said anything either, they didnt’ care but GOD couldn’t I have done something? I am
their daughter! I have lied to them, I have had a boyfriend and not told them even
though my mom would fully support it, I have deceived them so many times for my
selfish reasons to spend time with my friends or other silly things like that. I love my
family so much and I hate being this selfish, spoiled brat who hasn’t shown an ounce
of gratitude. Why can’t I be the valedictorian who has her two best friends forever, the
one who is president in two clubs along with a role in ASB office, the one who is the
wonderful person everyone looks up to..?
I was raised so much better than this. Here I am. I lost my worth ethic, my academic
status, the only gift I could give to my parents, and my old friends. I have betrayed my
teachers and my parents and my old friends. I’m sorry for any errors and wordiness
you might have found in this whole thing, I simply could not bring myself to read back
on it… I just hate myself so much for all these things in my life. I can’t find the will to
forgive myself.
ANSWER:
My Dear Kelly*, (*name changed for privacy)
There’s a lot here for us to discuss.
Important lesson: Procrastination is just a sign that you don’t really love something. If you loved it, if it was truly exciting to you, then there would be no procrastinating. You’d be clamoring to do it and no one could drag you away. Every time you force yourself to do something just so you can get a good grade or please those teachers or parents… well, the A certainly feels good, but what have you really achieved with it? You are just going along with their beliefs and expectations, and not following your heart.
So kudos to you for procrastinating! That’s a good sign. It’s a sign that even though you are burdened with other’s expectations of you, as well as your own, your wild heart isn’t squelched yet. Yay. Your heart (the genuine you) is still functioning and saying “Meh. That’s boring. Not for me.” Procrastination is a very important skill in life to have, except the more confident you become, it turns into “No, I’m not doing this and I don’t care what others will think!” Which is the secret to happiness, actually.
What is not a secret anymore is that the most successful people didn’t have good grades. Not that there’s anything wrong with academia, but that myth that teachers and parents tell you (or imply) that your success in life depends on your grades and the name of your college - so ridiculously not true and a total manipulation of your mind making you their little slave! Read the book “The Millionaire Mind” if you don’t believe me. Also, look at your own celebrity heroes- you’ll be pressed to find many who got good grades across the board. I’m sure you know Einstein hated school. He said, and I quote, “It is a miracle that curiosity survives formal education.” And “Imagination is more important than knowledge.” I couldn’t agree with him more.
But here’s something a little deeper I want to talk to you about: your desperate need to work hard in school ie. overachieve, and guilt when you don’t, is really just about your low self-esteem. I think you’ve had that low self esteem for quite a while, and good grades were/are a quick fix, very much like an addiction.
When you have a high self-esteem, you know you’re amazing no matter what. Good grades, horrible grades, happy parents, unhappy parents, good hair day, bad hair day, whatever, it doesn’t change the way you see yourself. But for you, the high of getting that A… doesn’t it make you feel less crappy, like you know who you are, you’re smart and productive and loved? I know it does. I used to be the same way, believe me. It’s all just a big cover-up, like makeup, trying to hide behind A’s that you don’t think much of yourself at all. Without the top-of-the-class persona, you don’t know who you are. And that’s what really scares you - being a “nobody”.
The deal is: You’re not nobody; clearly you’re somebody. But, you don’t know who you are. You need to find that one out and there are no shortcuts. You’re currently in self-discovery-mode, and like most of your peers, will be for quite a few years and then forever. Think of it as an adventure, not a race, where you’ll keep redefining yourself every few years.
***[SideNote: You may want to get my ebook "Find Your Passion" which is a 3-week lesson+exercise material, and will help you start forming some ideas about what excites you. It costs $15. Shoot me an email if you want it: lensone@gmail.com]
You got some Bs, you procrastinated on stuff you didn’t love (like the much hated SATs), you lied and changed friends (who doesn’t?), and so you’re calling yourself “selfish, stupid, lazy”. Yikes! This is some brutal and very critical inner voice you have. It may disguise itself as your friend, but it is not. A healthy self-esteem says, “I’m alright even if my grades/friends/etc suck. In fact, I’m proud of my bad grades. I’m creative and wild and independent. No one owns me except me. I love me.” That is self-worth! It’s actually a blessing that you didn’t do so well in high-school grade-wise because you exposed your inner demons, and now you can get to work on establishing true self-worth in your senior year. Be dedicated to that.
So how do you raise your self-esteem? The best way is to start doing things that you love, genuinely love, and stop forcing yourself to do things you don’t. When you love a subject, you tend to do well in it easily. No force, no hard work. Hard work will only get you physical illness. I’m not saying you won’t put a lot of effort in your work, but it will feel like fun and time will pass by quickly. You know, one of those, “can’t believe it’s already 6pm. It seems like noon was 5 minutes ago”. Your passion may very well be in academics, but it probably won’t be in every single academic subject. Or maybe your passion is elsewhere, not even in school. Being a true scholar doesn’t require one to be in school, but it does require love of knowledge in some field. Think about that. Anyway, when you do the stuff you love without judgement, you know who you are. You are the one who is doing that fun thing and being really happy. You don’t need some fake and firm definition of self because you’re in Joy.
And I know it’s sometimes hard to do that when you are 16 because your parents and teachers are so convincing. But you’re a big girl now and you get to choose what to believe. I believe in you. Your “essay” shows you’re intelligent and have great potential to find your own path. Whatever you choose to be passionate about, I know you’ll do great in it and make us all proud. Just don’t burden yourself with unrealistic expectations. And work on your self-esteem. Seriously, if there is a subject in life you want to get an A on, it’s your self-esteem. Nothing matters more.
Make college and studying fun. Don’t make it about grades. Choose a major you can enjoy. Choose a school you can enjoy. Choose friends and dates you can enjoy. Never mind about what others deem appropriate or prestigious. Just because you like to change your mind often doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. Life is all about experimentation and evolution. In the great scheme of things, there is no finish line. You’ll change your friends again and again, and sometimes you won’t even have any. It’s all good! Celebrate life!
Lastly, about your parents: their happiness or the roles they have assigned you are not your responsibilities. So be honest with them about your future plans- perhaps that you won’t be very studious anymore or whatever it may be- but keep being responsible only for your own happiness and roles you wish to play. I’m sure that much of your guilt comes from the way you have been raised, but in truth, you’re not here to be the perfect daughter or student or at the top of your class grade-wise. Who will you become? The decision is yours. Thank your parents for their previous support, but realize that they were doing it for selfish reasons as well: they wanted a daughter who is a good student so they made choices based on that. They are not perfect nor as noble as you may think. Same goes for your teachers. So, from now on, be clearer about what YOU want, and then be clear with them. Your new honest independence will take some getting used to, but the whole family will benefit in the longrun.
Hope this helped you sweetheart!
Kisses,
Len Sone
Self-Empowerment Expert and Life Coach
http://kissesandhearts.com
The real 411 on Life Coaching as a profession
June 28, 2009 by Len Sone
I often get emails and phone calls from people who want to get the 411 on Life Coaching as a career. Some common questions are:
- what's it like? - how does one become a life coach? - can you do it full-time or do you have to get another job? - what's good about it, what's bad about it? - how much does it pay? - what's the difference between life coaching and personal coaching? - what's the difference between life coaching and therapy?
I’m going to do my best to answer all your questions and give you the real 411 (the good and the bad), so you can get a realistic idea of what life coaching is like.
In my opinion, life coaching is the best career there is, but just like everything else, it takes devotion and inspired effort. It takes time to become successful at it. Above else, it takes love.
First of all, life coaching is not licensed. This means that anyone can do it, and there’s no need for any degree or even certification. Now, there are many companies that offer certification (and even colleges are starting to have programs for it), but it isn’t necessary to get one.
Technically, you can become a life coach today. You can print up some business cards and call yourself a life coach. Many people do exactly that and are actually fantastic coaches. The skills you’ll be using depend on your own self-study of personal development, not something you’ll learn in traditional school. I think intuition plays a major role in helping people: you need to understand people and read between the lines. Most of all, you need to be convincing that you can help them with their problem and/or goals.
The positive aspects of this career: You work for yourself and you make your own schedule. You can work from home and usually do, as most sessions with clients happen over the phone. The money is great per hour (on average $100/hr),
which means you can work less hours. You also get to have your own business, which is fantastic. There is so much freedom in this career and it’s incredibly rewarding to help people. The sessions are usually fun and creative, and they often end up benefiting you as much as your clients.
If you care about self-improvement, you’ll learn a lot doing this. It’s also empowering to be building your own business. And how many people get to sleep ’til 2PM and do their work in their pyjamas? Well, life coaches can do this! (I do it all the time!)
The negative aspects of this career: You have to find your own clients, which isn’t easy, especially at the beginning. Just like any salesman (or woman), you have to sell yourself and your service (life coaching). So, how much you earn will depend on how many clients you can get. This can be difficult for many coaches as we are often sensitive souls who don’t want to be selling ourselves nor are good at it. However, we usually have to develop this skill or we’d have no clients. Another negative aspect is the cost of running your own business, which is very small in comparison to other types of businesses, but can take a toll when you’re first starting out. There is the cost of phone bills, having your own website, of marketing, of
business cards, of autoresponders and mailing lists, etc.
Another negative aspect of life coaching is that sessions can be draining. You won’t like all your clients equally (you’re human) and some sessions may totally depress you after talking about your client’s problems. However, if you
learn to select the right clients for you and lead the session in a positive direction, this shouldn’t be a frequent problem. As with everything, the anxiety and pressure to perform well will subside the longer you are doing this.
As you can see, most of these negatives are really just lessons to learn. Everything worth doing has challenges along the way, but that shouldn’t ever stop you from doing what you love.
Usually, life coaches start off with another job (any job) that supports them financially until their coaching starts to bring in enough money. It can be a slow process, but again, once you do have enough clients, you will work less and earn more. You’ll also start to get more referrals and you’ll be more marketing-savvy as more time passes.
All of this will depend on you.
Another common question is whether life coaching is the same thing as personal coaching. Ok, basically life coaching separates into two types: 1. Executive coaching, and 2. Personal coaching. Personal coaching is where you help individuals with their personal and professional lives. In executive coaching, you generally help business owners or executives
reach their business goals. Different people are attracted to different kinds of coaching, so choose what you would enjoy most. (I am a personal coach and I love it!)
Coaches often choose a niche. For example, you can be a relationship coach who helps single women find true love. Or you can be a coach for teens. Or you can be an executive coach for small clothing stores. The possibilities are endless.
A great way to learn about coaching is to get sessions yourself. As you work with a life coach (or perhaps more), you will begin to see how it works. Although coaches work differently, there is always the general idea of asking our clients, “where are you now and where do you want to go?” We help our clients reach their goals. Unlike therapists, we don’t talk about the past traumas much, although sometimes we do talk about the past if it will help us understand our client’s patterns. However, a good coach always keeps their client focused on the future (and not just any future, but their ideal future).
I can tell you that I would never leave life coaching as it is perfect for me! I hate working for others and I am a natural teacher of self-empowerment. This is definitely a career for those who are self-motivated and like freedom.
I hope this has answered your questions!
And I hope to have sessions with all of you and I know you’ll really enjoy them!
Kisses,
Len Sone
Self-Empowerment Expert and Life Coach
http://kissesandhearts.com
“Be Yourself. It’s the only thing you can be truly successful at.”
Q&A: I’m worried about my work situation
June 27, 2009 by Len Sone
QUESTION:
Dear Len!
I am a petroleum engineer from Afghanistan now in Canada, I came to Canada as a skilled worker ,because I wanted to escape the Islamic totalatarian regime in Afghanistan,I am 34 yrs old man and i have a life ,where everything seemed to against me, being non-practicing person, member of human right org,s the pressure/fear and last my mothher passed away when i was coming to Canada.
I have lived life that didn’t give me a chance to polish myself back home.
Now in Canada, I would like to start a new life, free from anxiety,,fear and apprehension but my past painful memories deprive me of that. It is a known fact if someone is subject to anxiety and dperession , his/her mental capibilities shrink.
I have problem in focusing , paying attentionn, that’s why I score poor in my school, I have started my schooling in Canada to up-grade my skills.
I would like to improve my brain function, focus, attention.
Otherwise i may not be able to get job, if if i am not that technically sound.
Please provide me some advice that could help me in becomig technically sound and my brain start functioning sharpely.In this materialistic a sharp person has more chances to get a job and to progress.
Thanks
ANSWER:
Dear Bob* ,
my sage advice in one word: RELAX!
We are all taught that our work situation depends on our skills and talents, our mental capacity, but that just isn’t true. The only thing that really matters in our finances and career is our vibration. When we’re happy and having fun, everything in our life works. When we worry, nothing does. Law of Attraction is THE LAW to pay attention to.
And the thing is, you’re worrying a lot! You’re worrying about the past, about your work, your school…. and about your worrying. That means that your vibration is very low, which means that you’re attracting many negative things in your life, because like attracts like.
The only thing you need to improve is your vibration, and the only way to do that is to decide to relax, have fun and let worries go.
Let your mantra be: More fun, less worry. More fun, less worry. More fun, less worry.
Make a list of things you enjoy doing for fun and do them more often. Watch movies, play soccer, read poetry, sleep, whatever is fun and easy for you. When a negative thought arises, let God (the Universe) handle it. The old wise saying, “Let go and let God” really works wonders for someone like you, someone who has been worrying a lot. It’s time for you to step aside and let go of trying to manage everything.
If you don’t believe me, try it out for a month. Simply make your only job to have fun, and let the universe take care of the rest. You will become happier, your vibration will rise, and as a result, you will be attracting better situations including better jobs and more money. And it will all come to you easily.
Another thing to think about is whether you even enjoy your work as a petroleum engineer. If you don’t, change it into a career you can really love. You are still very young, and you are beginning a NEW Life. Don’t waste it! This is your chance to create the life you always dreamed of.
Maybe in Afghanistan you couldn’t be your true self, but now you can. Now you can follow your genuine interests like, for example, taking acting classes because you always secretly wanted to be a famous actor, or business lessons because you always pictured yourself as a successful businessman. If money is short, find another way; do what you can with what you’ve got until more money comes- and it will! Let Canada be your new home and your new teacher; there’s a good reason why you moved to a different continent. CHANGE.
It would help you enormously to stop trying to act like a serious and responsible adult, and be a kid again (or maybe for the first time). Dream, nap, play, run.
Life is really fun when you let it be. But it’s your choice. The thing about life is that the stronger your intention to have fun, the more fun life becomes. It’s not an instantaneous process because YOU have to change, but life is really just a mirror of you. So if life right now seems all serious and full of pressure, it’s because You are serious and pressure yourself.
Another perk to having more fun is that it improves your brain function, focus, and attention. All the things you wanted to improve in the first place. But that’s just icing on the cake. The real gift is that you’ll be having fun!
I recommend you read “Ask and It is Given” by Abraham-Hicks. It will go more in-depth about Law of Attraction. You can also access more of my articles on my website: http://kissesandhearts.com
Finally, I leave you with one of my favorite quotes:
"Life is too important to be taken seriously" - Oscar Wilde
Have fun,
Len Sone
Self-Empowerment Expert and Certified Life Coach
http://kissesandhearts.com
“Be Yourself! It’s the only thing you can be truly successful at.”
(*name changed for privacy)
Breaking out of our comfort zones
June 19, 2009 by Len Sone
On our path, our calling, there are many fears to conquer. I believe it was Doreen Virtue’s angels who said that the greater our mission, the greater our fears will be. Indeed, I’m finding that many of us “Lightworkers” have to get over our shyness and embarrassment to really have an impact. One of the common challenges is to find clients and an audience. Not easy! And mostly because of our own hangups. So how do you deal with that stuff? Well, that’s why I have the 90 Day Assertiveness Training. I really want to help you guys have support while you’re getting over these humbling experiences of, say, pitching your products and getting rejected. Or, heck, just asking that hot guy/gal on a date.
Big Smile Like You’re on Top of the World
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Those games we played as kids, now called role-playing, still work wonders for people’s careers and personal lives. I ask my clients to roleplay with me by pretending they are on top of the world.
One of my wonderful clients, Megan, didn’t think she could get a position she really wanted. Too much competition, she said. So I asked her to pretend she just got the job and tell me about it. It was a slow start but… woah, once she got going… she really let herself go and had more fun than she had in a while. And guess what happened? Within an hour, the CEO of the company called her and said she’s hired! Megan couldn’t believe it!
These are the kinds of things that happen when you roleplay with a life coach and mentally allow yourself to feel the excitement of success!
Whatcha waiting for?
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Assertiveness Training is designed to help you deal with… well, breaking your barriers. And that’s not glamorous because life asks us to go beyond our comfort zones. That means, getting over embarrassment and rejection. Getting over guilt and shame. But, good news! You don’t need to do it alone. I’m here for you. Supporting you is my job.
[Sign-up by emailing me at Len@KissesAndHearts.com]
FREE Coaching Session: Are you embarrassed about not being important enough?
May 19, 2009 by admin
Do you often feel like you don’t really matter???
In this free 45-min introductory session, I will work with you personally and show you how to stop being ignored. We will ignite the Dreamer inside you and open the floodgates…
Learn 5 steps to VISIBILITY:
1. Passion 2. Compatibility 3. Self-Worth 4. Visualization 5. Success
The shame of feeling like a failure haunts many people. Do you feel stuck in your old limited way of seeing yourself? I’d like to help you get unstuck and rejoin the human community with a new sense of personal power and your life purpose.
This session will jump-start your Assertiveness Training.
Be appreciated & loved …heard in all your relationships …confident in any situation!
Sign-up for the free session:
Are you embarrassed about not being important enough?
Do you usually feel like you don’t really matter???
In this free 45-min introductory session, I will work with you personally and show you how to stop being ignored. We will ignite the Dreamer inside you and open the floodgates…
Learn 5 steps to VISIBILITY:
1. Passion 2. Compatibility 3. Self-Worth 4. Visualization 5. Success
The shame of feeling like a failure haunts many people. Do you feel stuck in your old limited way of seeing yourself? I’d like to help you get unstuck and rejoin the human community with a new sense of personal power and your life purpose.
This session will jump-start your Assertiveness Training.
Be appreciated & loved …heard in all your relationships …confident in any situation!
Sign-up for the free session by emailing me at Len@KissesAndHearts.com
TELESEMINAR: Are you a creative person who struggles financially?
May 18, 2009 by Len Sone
Next Day/Time: June 17th 6PM
Discover how to earn a great living doing what you love!
In this group teleseminar, we’ll work together on all of the following:
- You’ll find your passion!
- You’ll set your results effectively!
- You’ll start creating your project(s)!
- You’ll discover your worth and how to charge what you’re worth!
- You’ll clear the clutter in your surroundings and mind!
- You’ll be inspired to be extraordinary!
- You’ll become expensive!
- You’ll make tons of money!
This teleseminar is the first step in showing your commitment to yourself. It’s saying, “I matter! I want to succeed!” Let’s get you to a place where you feel good about the amount of dollars you’re making!
Interested? Email me to sign up and you will be sent the necessary links.
The teleseminar will run for about 1.5 hours.
FEE: $97 (or FREE if you join my Assertiveness Training Program)
Kisses,
Len Sone
Certified Life Coach and Law of Attraction Expert
len@kissesandhearts.com
Q&A: Teenager’s life doesn’t feel real
April 8, 2009 by Len Sone
QUESTION:
Hi.
I’m very sorry if this question is in the wrong category, but I’m honestly confused on where it should go. I just need help getting through this phase in my life. When i was 15 (I’m currently 17), my life hit a difficult and hard-to-describe phase. Ever since i was 15, it’s like my life has been a gigantic dream, but not in a good way whatsoever. It’s like i’m not here, i’m just wasting away my life. I know it might be hard to understand, but this is the best way i can describe it. My life seems like one gigantic dream. I’m not “living” my life. It’s as though Im seeing it all go by, and I can’t do one thing about it.
Could this be because of a chemical deficiency? Could this be just a teenage phase? I don’t think i could have put this on myself. I don’t do drugs, drink, or smoke, so i know that couldn’t be an answer. But please, i know it might be hard to understand, but please try to e-mail me back as soon as possible. I truly need help through this. Thank you for your time.
ANSWER:
Hi Billy (*name changed for privacy),yes, this is the right place for your question!
I know that a lot of people may tell you that you may have some chemical deficiency and put you on some drug. However, even our body chemistry is caused by our vibration (our thoughts and emotions). To change your issue, you need to focus your thoughts in a positive direction (more on that later).
If you are familiar with the Law of Attraction, you will know that the more you think of something, the more it appears in your life. Since you have been saying over and over to yourself in the past 2 years that life appears to not be real, you have attracted even more of that mental state and experiences in your life. It doesn’t matter how it started, so don’t try to figure that out. That won’t help. What matters now is how to change that and become happy.
Since you bring up the issue of dreams and feeling like you’re wasting your life, let’s talk about your dreams! What are your dreams? What do you want to accomplish in your life? Are there any scenarios, locations, careers or hobbies that you feel called to experience? I know that you must have dreams, for we all do. And as a teenager, you must have a lot!
So, the cure for you my dear is to start thinking about your passion(s), and then DO IT. Start with baby steps, but do your best to move forward with it. Then you will find yourself really living!
[You may wish to start with a free online class I created called "Find Your Passion", which is located here: http://kissesandhearts.com/classes/free-class-find-your-passion/]
The question of “What Excites Me?” is the most important question to ask yourself.
It may help you to know that many people experience what you are now experiencing, and actually, it is a very good thing because it means that you are going through a TRANSFORMATION. Obviously for you, when you hit 15, the life you knew, as a child, started to change. What your parents live or believe is no longer enough. You are now at a stage where you are ready to define yourself!
So how do you want to define yourself? Who do you want to become? That’s what life is asking of you now, and if you follow your excitement and intuition no matter what anyone else says, you will become a very happy and empowered young man. And very quickly too!
It’s very important that you define a very clear intention for yourself. Again, something that calls you and excites you. When you have a clear positive self-defined direction in your life, you will feel much better. You’ll know where you’re headed, and it will feel magical!
You’re ok kid. Nothing’s wrong with you. Now go out there and become the person you really want to be (because that’s who you actually are)!
Lots of love to you,
Len Sone
certified Life Coach
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